Catch You When You Fall

Is it better to be taken care of emotionally or financially?


  If you were to ask my mother she would say it was a no brainer, financial support is more important.  This could be because she was fortunate enough to be taken care of financially for most of her life.  Only in the latter half of her life did she find the emotional support that she lacked from my own Father.  To no fault of his own his simply did not know how to give to a woman what she would need when it came to matters of the heart.

My mother married young and did not know that it was okay to ask for what she needed.  She may not have even known what she needed at the time.


Most women today are taught to be self sufficient, and not rely on anyone for any kind of support, emotional and otherwise.  We are told we are strong.  We are told. "no one is coming."   


There is no prince in shining armor on a white horse ready to snap us up out of poverty or poor relationships choices, or even worse there is no castle on the hill.


Some women I know would say that it is more important to be financially set.  In fact I have one friend who says that she believes that women should be able to emotionally support themselves, but it is the financial that allows for freedom.


I couldt disagree more.  Without having someone to catch you when you fall you , yes you land hard, and yes you will get back up again. However what is so wrong with wanting the comfort of landing in someone's arms?  To have that person or be that person is allowing yourself to be vulnerable.

Vulnerability is more freeing than any full bank account.

 I see pluses to both sides of the equation, which is really a miracle since I suck at math.  


I have another friend who is half my age and possibly the most jaded woman on the planet.  She is very career driven, and although I admire that (obviously an area I lack) I can not help but wonder what life experiences she will miss out on.  Will she ever know the depths of love and overwhelming experience of being loved?


Is any realationship scary?  Duh.  


Is my relationship with my children better when we have money?  I don't know that I can say that for fact.  It may be less stressful to a degree, but I would not say it is any better.  My love, my support, my heart and all my emotions is what I have to offer them the most.  


Balance as always is the key to any success.  Be it emotional or financial.


Yes women should be able to take care of themselves in both categories.  Yes women should be able to ask for what they need from the people in their lives, even if it is just to listen and be witness to their pain.


When my score sheet is tallied up I hope that it is the emotional support I have given to my family and friends that outweighs any financial help I may have bestowed along the line.